Build your self confidence

Social media pressure can be the worst, as in the photo everyone on holiday having a good time!! Comparisons are not good for our mental health and dent our confidence.  There are lots of practical things you can do to keep your confidence boosted:-

1. Use Affirmations - affirming language to keep you on track.  As simple as "You've got this", "I'll handle this".  Saying the right words to ourselves and using positive language is life affirming.  You can look in the mirror each morning and give yourself a high five or say something personal and powerful that works for you eg. "You are a confident professional and you got today!!"
2. Strengths & Attributes - make a list of all the things that you consider a strength or a personal attribute you have received feedback on.  Are you a good listener? creative thinker, or do you possess a calmness and serenity that has been much admired by others.  Recognising our own strengths and harnessing them so we deploy them to their best advantage is a direct correlation to us feeling confident.
3. Give Back - When we do things for others it makes us feel good and builds our confidence.  Think about the last nice thing you did for some-one and remember how it felt.
4. Exercise - We feel lighter when we step away from the screen or the desk to exercise.  If you get into a rhythm of regular exercise it will make you feel good about everything else and give you perspective.
5. Be Kind to yourself - Make a list of things that give you immediate happiness, whether it be a walk outside, a coffee or time with a pet.  These moments are all about what you enjoy and you need to ensure that you have them scheduled into your day everyday.  Micro bursts that feed your soul.
6. Positive relationships - We all know people that make us feel good and equally we know there are others who drain your energy. Take time to discern whether a colleague/friend or family member is a drain or a tap.  Do they metaphorically fill you up or do they drain you of positivity.
7. Focus on your wins - Achievement underpins motivation so record all your wins everyday.  The momentum makes you go onto achieve even more...
8. Personal Goals - Recording small/quick wins is good for our confidence and belief system, however go a stage further and set yourself some personal goals.  Working on these alongside work objectives keeps you in a proactive mindset.  The learning from personal goals can help with your work objectives and visa versa.  They can be as simple as reading a book a month, to running a marathon or learning a new language.

Confidence comes from within, however by following the top tips above you are measuring externally.  By working with a coach you have an accountability partner, some-one to monitor your progress, listen and if appropriate suggest new ideas.

Please do get in touch if you would like coaching taster session bev@nuggetsoflearning.co.uk